Parenthood is amazing,it’s a privilege.Let’s cherish it. Love your child wholeheartedly and unconditionally as they teach us many things on a daily basis.They make us realize the importance of laughing even at small things.They teach us that life is less complicated and much more beautiful than we ever think.
But sometimes being a parent is not that easy,it comes with challenges and milestones.
In times of stress,anxiety or frustrations that makes parents lashing out at children.
But hitting or yelling never feels good for anyone.it generates fear,low self esteem,aggression and mental illness.It causes more distant parent-child relationship.
Many of us are guilty of having done this more often than we’d like to admit.
it’s never too late to change your way to handle parenting.
Positive parenting is an approach that emphasizes strong bonding and mutual respect between parents and child that yields better outcome in terms of the child’s behavior, emotional growth, academic performance and mental health.
Being an individual,each child has his or her own feelings,ability to think and decide.so,instead of treating them as our own property,we should respect their feelings and emotions.
Communication is a powerful tool:
Talking with positive words rather than yelling conserves energy, giving us emotional resources to work with our kids instead of hurting them.
Each child has his or her own temperament,and tantrums.
it’s important to hold your breath and find that the way to get anyone to do anything is through patience and communication.
Allow them to speak without interruption,when they have queries or anything to explore.
No one is Perfect:
Acknowledge your child that you don’t want them to be perfect.Its ok to make mistakes,but help them to learn from their mistakes.
Praise them when they admit their mistakes rather than blaming others.
Teach them how to apologize when their mistakes hurt others.
Deal with peer pressure:
Social influence that impacts our child’s behaviour to meet the demands of a social environment generates peer pressure.
It can be good or bad depending on what action is taken, what consequences it brings and whether or not you want to do it.
Parents need to play a vital role in this process by helping kids learn to make good choices when they’re being influenced—for better or worse—by their peers.
Pay close attention to them but give them some privacy.Keeping in mind their age limits, give your children some space to make their own decisions.
Without criticizing them,give Feedback and advice when they try out new ideas, explore beliefs, and discuss problems.
Encourage them to do their best, and you are always there for them to talk to when they feel like they’ve failed.
Start sharing your own personal struggles, the options you had for handling them, and how you chose the path you took.Kids always learn by positive examples.
Share knowledege about risky behavior with your teenager kids, such as drugs, alcohol or unprotected sex.They might not like the conversation but surely they will make good decisions to deal with these.